Fostering FAQs

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Welcome to our Frequently Asked Questions page, if you have a question which is not listed here please do not hesitate to get in touch, you can contact us by calling 0191 561 2223 or by emailing us at

At the bottom of the page, we have also included our Enquiry Form and Information Pack which are both available for download.

Is there an upper age limit to fostering?

No. You need to be healthy and have the right attitude to helping children and young people. Often people in their later years have a great deal of experience, although we have to recognise that fostering does require stamina, and the physical and mental energy required to meet the needs of children.

Can I foster if I have a dog?

Yes, we assess pets too! What we need to check out is that your dog is not a dangerous breed and that it will be safe and content to have new children in your family. We also need to know its habits, routines and any factors that could be risky to a child or to your dog. As part of our assessment, we assess all pets in the home but many children enjoy living with pets.

What happens if I don't have a placement and drop my income for a while?

In preparing to foster, you need to think about your income and outgoings and what you need to live on. We can provide information about fees and allowances but these are payable when you are caring for a child. You may want to work alongside fostering but we ask you to talk to us about what this entails, so we know what it means for any children placed. You can also claim benefits when you don't have a placement.

Can I foster if I smoke?

Yes but it shouldn't come as a surprise that we encourage smokers to quit. You will not be able to have a child under five placed in a smoking household and we also require that no smoking takes place in the home.

Do I need to be able to drive to foster?

No but it does help. All of our children are placed from the Sunderland area and are likely to have school arrangements within the city. However, this may still be a few miles away and foster carers manage day-to-day life with the children more easily if they have access to a car. We do recognise the value of teaching children to travel on public transport and this may be your preferred method of getting around.

Do I have to take the child to school?

Wherever possible we want foster carers to act as good parents and take children to school; dependent on age and stage of development. It helps children to feel more secure and foster carers to have daily contact with schools and everything that is going on there.

Can the child go to school closer to where I live?

Schools, teachers and friends can be very important and stable elements of a child's life, especially when they had to move into foster care. We all avoid changes to a child's school because it is so important that they have continuity. However where permanence is planned, this can often be a time where it is good to make sure that a child placed in a school close to their foster home and local community.

Can foster children share a bedroom?

Children should have their own room, unless it is agreed that it is in the best interests of a child to share with a same sex sibling perhaps because this will provide the comfort the children require. Looked after children should never have a shared bedroom with unrelated children or with adults in the household.
The exception is babies who may have a cot in the foster carer's room, up to age two, but must never share a bed.

Can I foster for Together for Children if I live outside of Sunderland or Washington?

Yes but we would need to be sure that you could take children to school and other arrangements. There is a need at times for some placements that are a little further from the City area.

Can I foster and be a child minder?

Yes but both agencies must be aware of the arrangements and the numbers of children placed will depend on all child caring commitments that you have. You will be registered with Ofsted as a child minder and Ofsted also regulate fostering services. Experience as a child minder can be very valuable for fostering. However, we need to ensure that the needs of all children can be fully met and are not compromised due to the dual role.

If I find that fostering is not for me, what can I do?

We would hope to offer a lot of opportunity to talk through anything that is concerning you about fostering and try to support and encourage your development or different ways of approaching things. We don't give up on our foster carers and we value the work they do very much. However, foster carers are entitled to resign and the process is a smooth one. We just ask that foster carers talk to us about this and that we can all work together to ensure the needs of any children are planned for properly and in good time.

I've heard that foster carers may be the subject of allegations by the child. Is this right?

Foster carers can be subject to allegations and these situations can be very upsetting for everyone concerned. It is a natural concern of foster carers in 2019. What we do is set out a very robust approach to safe care and we train our foster carers in how to think about safe care and we train our foster carers in how to think about safe care for everyone in the household and for children placed too. We talk regularly with foster carers about safe care arrangements and by setting out a sensible approach to the way in which children are looked after your home, we know this minimises risks of false allegations. We must listen to children whenever they say they have been hurt or harmed. What we aim to do is to reduce the risk of any situation be open to misinterpretation and seek to encourage building positive relationships with children.
Where allegations do happen: we deal with these quickly, transparently and foster carers are offered independent support.

Can I take the child on holiday?

Yes, we encourage foster carers to build family life with children and for many children, this involves them going on holiday with the foster carer. Good planning is vital and if you're going abroad, there will be passport and birth parent consents to think about. The needs of the child, ensuring that holiday accommodation is going to be suitable and ensuring that everyone who needs to be consulted is, are key to making this a very positive experience for everyone.

Can I make day-to-day decisions about the child's life?

Together for Children will delegate some decision making to foster carers, in respect of the child they are caring for. The extent of this will depend on a number of factors, including how long they have been with you, their legal status and the relationship. Delegated authority matters will be discussed and clearly set out in writing and will be reviewed as required.

In Foster Care

  • Find out more about fostering with Together for Children.
  • Our Connected Carers Team is involved in the assessment and support of Connected Carers and Special Guardians.
  • Want to know what it’s like to be a foster carer? Read some of the stories of our foster carers.
  • Find answers to the most frequently asked questions about foster care.
  • Ofsted, the government office for standards in education, children's services and skills, found Together for Children's independent fostering agency to be good.
  • Private fostering is an arrangement made by a child’s parent (or someone with parental responsibility) for them to live with a carer who is not a close relative of the child (under the age of 16 or 18 if the child is disabled).